Monday, August 6, 2018

Thank You!! ~ GoFundMe Campaign Update


Thanks to you guys, I'm almost ready to move to Ohio to be with Matt so we can support each other. :) All that's left is to get a moving truck so I can be officially moved in.

Support Alyssa & Matt's independence ➤ http://www.gofundme.com/alyssa-matt-aspie-love

Side note: Turns out I might lose my SSI/disability benefits if I get married, so the fundraiser will mostly help cover moving expenses. I will have to wait until I can get a suitable job before I tie the knot.

Bloopers from this video (trust me, they're great) ➤ https://youtu.be/QDNeZdwM_xQ

(Video Transcript)
Hi! I'm Alyssa of the Life of an Aspie, and this is my fiancé Matt (who is secretly a viking). I'm in Ohio for a visit, getting things sorted out so I can move here soon. That's why I've not been as active online lately.

Also, if you're wondering what happened to my hair, I did another video on that so check it out if you haven't already seen it.

I wanted to say... thank you all so much for supporting our GoFundMe campaign! For those of you who don't already know, it was to help me move to Ohio officially so I can be with Matt and get the support I need.

Matt and I are both on the autism spectrum, and we function a lot better when we're together because we help take care of each other. I needed the financial support to get here since I cannot work a job right now due to my disabilities.

So far, the funds have helped cover gas for my car so I could drive to Ohio to secure housing here. Thankfully, we did find a place to live within our means, so that's taken care of.

Your support has also helped pay for groceries, basic necessities like shampoo, toothpaste (things like that), some of my out-of-pocket medical costs (because I have a lot of issues), and a few items for the house like cleaning supplies and a cheap vacuum cleaner since we didn't have one.

Again, thank you all for your support, you are amazing and I really value being able to share these things with you thanks to the wonderful thing that is the Internet.

The GoFundMe is still open for donations, so if you haven't been able to support us yet but want to, or you have but want to give more, it's still there. The link is in the description. 

We do have one more major expense, and that's renting a moving truck so I can bring my belongings from IL to our new place here.

I'll be heading back to IL soon, and I'll be able to host more livestreams and participate in the Autistic Gaming Initiative again. I will make sure I have internet access when I officially move here, so I can continue my work and keep in touch with you guys.

Again, thank you for all your support, and have a great day!

---

Asperger's Documentary ➤ https://youtu.be/2TSlti5bioQ
Asperger's/Autism Support Groups & Resources ➤ https://goo.gl/Bd10tg

Subscribe ➤ https://www.youtube.com/user/AlyssaHuberFilms
Alyssa Huber Films [Official Website] ➤ http://www.alyssahuberfilms.com
My Asperger's Blog ➤ http://life-of-an-aspie.blogspot.com/
Facebook ➤ http://www.facebook.com/AlyssaHuberFilms
Twitter ➤ https://twitter.com/alyssahubfilms

Life Update ~ I'm Bald! xD


I got scammed into shaving my head. :D I didn't want my hair, anyway. I think a pixie cut would look good on me...

P.S. The bearded viking dude in the video is Matt Rhodes, from the documentary "Through Our Eyes: Living with Asperger's" and my fiancé! ^_^

(Video Transcript)
Remember my long flowing red hair? Yeah, it's gone now. And I feel great.

Honestly, I've been wanting to shave my head for a long time because my hair has always been a sensory nightmare for me.
I was aware of it 24/7, it got caught on everything, and it took a lot of time just keeping it clean and non-greasy and not tangled.

It feels so much better now. There's so many advantages to having it this short.
1. I don't have to worry about my hair getting wet in the rain or frizzy in humidity.
2. I don't have to keep a hair tie on my wrist all the time.
3. I can actually roll my windows down in my car and it won't wreck my hair.

Also, I've been told I look badass like this. A friend told me that I remind him of Furiosa from Mad Max. I'll admit I feel more confident knowing that. And I think people would be less likely to try to pick a fight with me if I look tougher. And maybe they'd take me more seriously.

I feel more bold and more honest this way. And I feel like it's allowed me to give more attention to things that I value more, like creative hobbies and daily tasks I need to do.

To be honest, while I did want to shave my head anyway,
I was actually scammed into it. I've heard of people selling their hair online, usually for wig makers, and my hair was apparently really valuable because red is a rare color.

So I listed it on a website, and usually you're not supposed to cut it until you have a buyer--just to keep it as fresh as possible. So I held off on cutting it and waited for a buyer because hey--it's money, and I need money. I didn't get any buyers for about month, not even anyone inquiring about it,
but eventually I came across an ad from a buyer looking for specific hair, and got in contact with them. We made an agreement, I followed the terms and cut my hair, but this guy refused to pay.

That was partially my fault because I already knew it was bad idea to cut my hair before the payment, but honestly I was so sick of my hair at that point, that I was willing to take a risk.

And another advantage of having no/short hair: I can wear hats now! I used to not be able to wear them because I hated getting hat hair and the feeling of my hair being greasy.

Anyway, I just wanted to explain WHY I'm bald so you guys won't be left confused. :D

(Note: I plan on letting it grow out to a pixie cut, since my Muffin [Matt] thinks it'd look good on me. I think so too. ^^)

---

Support Alyssa & Matt's independence ➤ http://www.gofundme.com/alyssa-matt-aspie-love

Asperger's Documentary ➤ https://youtu.be/2TSlti5bioQ
Asperger's/Autism Support Groups & Resources ➤ https://goo.gl/Bd10tg

Subscribe ➤ https://www.youtube.com/user/AlyssaHuberFilms
Alyssa Huber Films [Official Website] ➤ http://www.alyssahuberfilms.com
My Asperger's Blog ➤ http://life-of-an-aspie.blogspot.com/
Facebook ➤ http://www.facebook.com/AlyssaHuberFilms
Twitter ➤ https://twitter.com/alyssahubfilms

Saturday, August 4, 2018

The Sims ~ It's For Autistic People, Too


How can an introverted aspie (person with Asperger's Syndrome / Autism Spectrum Disorder) possibly enjoy a people simulator?

I often feel like an alien among people, but I've always loved The Sims. I wanted to talk about my experience with this game as someone who hates socializing.

The Sims 2 and 3 were among my favorite childhood games. The most popular people simulator had me hooked, and filling each Sims "needs" bars and granting their wishes was satisfying to me.

After a long hiatus, I decided to dust off Sims 3 and play it again. I couldn't load my old saves, so I had to start from scratch. I made a Sim based on myself (as I usually do; it feels the most comfortable), with my appearance, personality traits, interests, etc. I didn't make any more Sims beyond that, because I wanted this to be my private world and experience. 

Me in my little world

Playing this game again made me realize some things.


#1. I play it for the control, not the social aspect
Finally, I can keep things clean.
I do enjoy creating Sims and living vicariously through them, but I enjoy being able to control the environment and the actions of the Sims even more. The social aspect (having my Sims go to work/school, hang out with friends, date, have sex etc.) used to be fun for me (I didn't have close connections back then), but my current disillusion with life has made that part of the game less appealing. In real life, my experiences with people have made me want to withdraw even more, and I also realize that I have very little control over the world (and people) around me. There are some things that can go wrong in The Sims--like the stove bursting into flames, wetting your pants, Sims dying etc.--but unlike the real world, they do not phase me at all, and each problem has a predictable solution.


#2. Being unemployed is totally okay
Unemployed ≠ Unproductive
I can customize my Sims, my house, and the lives of my Sims in any way I wish (especially with cheats). I wanted to try playing without cheats for once, but that meant no money magically appearing out of nowhere. That meant my Sims had to make the money themselves, but I was dreading the idea of joining the workforce. My real-life distaste for 9-5 jobs somehow made it difficult for me to separate that from my gaming experience. But I realized I didn't HAVE to join the workforce if I didn't want to.

Instead, I decided to be a starving artist who makes money selling weirdly-titled paintings (like "What Am I Looking At" and "Cubed Dreams"), rocks I found, and fish I caught. It gave me a sense of pride, paying my Sim's bills by doing what I really wanted to without the need for a 9-5 job. I desperately have wished that for my real life. But I'm grateful to feel that sense of pride and dignity, even if it's in a game, because it's awful hard to feel that when you're unemployed and unable to live off your hobbies.


#3. I can be alone.
I can always chat online to fill that Social meter.
I considered having my Sim date, but for some reason it didn't feel right. The childish side of me decided boys are icky, at least in the context of the game, and I didn't have to navigate the annoyances of gaining someone's love and trust. It's fun in real life, but the game is meant to be relaxing to me, not emotionally taxing. I didn't want my Sim to make too many friends, either. It works well anyway because I gave her the "loner" personality trait.

For me, The Sims doesn't have to be like reality... because it's not. It may just be a simulation, but it's a customizable, therapeutic one for me, at least right now while I'm still interested in playing it. It's been comforting to me so far, having a bubble of control like that. I need to engage with similar hobbies like playing The Sims more often to help relieve the anxiety that reality causes.


#4. I'm not much different from other humans
Talking on the phone about chicken... doesn't everyone do that?
In my mind, I tend to separate myself as an "alien" who is more flawed than everyone else. I went into it thinking that I can't relate--I mean, it's a people game--but turns out I was just trying to live my life as I wanted to, just like most people do.

I guess I'm more "normal" than I think I am. All humans have basic needs, wishes and ambitions, and are bound by time like I am. I don't often think about that, and end up placing incredibly high standards on myself; if I'm not doing great things, I'm nothing. This tends to be counterproductive, however, and drags me into depression. Playing The Sims reminds me that there is nothing wrong with ordinary life, daily activities, and taking breaks to fulfill needs.

I'm also reminded that there is only so much time in a day. I think The Sims does a pretty good job of making tasks take a realistic amount of time (at least for me), and makes me not feel so guilty about not completing the extensive lists I give myself in one day. For example, I allowed myself to split up my recent vlogs (will be posted soon) into smaller steps: I set aside a day for filming, another for editing, and another for uploading to YouTube. It's made me more productive and not give up on it before I've even started.

I want to keep feeling like this. Human. I'm not as alien as my brain would like me to believe. I'm not the only one with flaws and limitations. It's not wrong or bad to be that way, it's just human--and that means I'm not alone. I mean, I WANT to be alone because I hate socializing, but it's good to know I'm not the only freak in an already freakish world.